an essay perhaps
says Fern about her house (from better days):
It was just a company tract house. Actually, it was special.
We were right on the edge of town and our backyard looks
out onto this huge open space. It was just desert, desert,
desert, all the way to the mountains.
There was nothing in our way.
Fern (by Frances McDormand) from the movie, Nomadland
Ways to navigate. There’s Sun then Moon then Sun again. Stars too, from ears to toes. Wind whispers near. Breath circumnavigates in response. There’s how waves move above a slow nesting sea. Fish too, swimming deeper than restless sight. My hand in the water. Does skin taste the salt? Ripples, the ones you keep and those you let pass by. How Moon becomes the limber sea. Oh yes, and the smell of dry land.
And the scent of you.
Wayfinding. I like that word. Isn’t that what we’re doing here?
There’s the warm pulse living inside my chest. Amber hills that seasons reflect. And there, there, another like me and I see the curve, the way a hand would appreciate shape, and what also beats inside, how we measure near and far.
More than a compass reveals.
What is essential is invisible to the eye.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery, The Little Prince
What I got wrong.
Mother said Presbyterian, but from the shallow end of the pool, and then, “my choice”. I looked. I didn’t believe, except that they looked colorless to me. No home. Later, my first, my only, high school girlfriend, she was Japanese. A small offering shrine in their home, toast for the ancestors. So I studied Buddhism, not that she cared in the least. But the dye was cast and no removing it. How’s that for brief history?
Not that history says why, rather what and how, maybe who, and as such always seemed fair and right questions to me. Mostly, no real teachers so imagine a patchwork mess. Oh yea, and I should include being painfully shy. Not a very good lubricant.
A child of the Sixties and going into Space, so reasonable science became more church than church. Over many years the pot on the stove grew in volume. Bubbling, blending, they came to an understanding I was willing to embrace. Reasonable?
Like mom said, it was always my choice. However, no choice about having choice. No matter the source, the story inside always is within what understandings I’m willing to swallow. My choice. That is simple mechanics, how it works.
To summarize what hasn’t yet been said, I thought I carried some useful notions about this jigsaw in my lap. It all made a certain reasonable sense but the math always summed up to zero,
neutral was the word I used.
The universe didn’t care.
Much later a genuine teacher crossed my wandering. He was honest, I was not. He observed experience, I did not. He understood math better than me. From youth he had angels at the foot of his bed. And no compromise, no negation of his experience. His universe was not neutral, not at all. Neither was he.
Here’s the math.
in my view 1 plus -1 = 0
in his vision 1 plus -1 = 1
Noticeable difference it seems to me. Seen through another lens,
Love is the state, the act, of unconditional acceptance.
That’s a pretty big mouthful just of itself. More rightly said,
the true nature of existence is “love with affection”.
Connected. Not passive. Engaged.
A lie does not negate what is true. That math is wrong.
I was wrong.
As a human, he liked his experience of life. As human, I did not. No mystery why my notions had a certain blindness the way they leaned.
Same same as choice. You are the only one point of view to look and choose. Tell me what your own life says to you. Fear or joy? Which feels real to you? A stranger walking by, do their eyes meet yours? Aversion or greeting, which feels like home?
Does the world include awareness, affection? If you do, then the answer is yes. You are both evidence and proof. Ask the question. Take the answer you get. Look. Choose.
harbored in between.
far water. and,
no bigger than my thumb
ferryboats, moving east to me
and westerly where,
I don’t know.
Is there listening when I speak? when I think? when I feel?
Aphorisms The truth doesn’t mean anything. It just is.
Happiness is a function of accepting what is. Love is a function
of communication. Health is a function of participation. Self-
expression is a function of responsibility.
Werner Erhard, Aphorisms
Astronomers pose the question, Are we alone?
I’ve come to recognize I take that personally – Am I alone?
No, not meaning interstellar companions, rather what is already right here with us. You and me, obvious, although a challenge of itself. But how about – a bird, a breeze, a bench? The molecules in your hand? What is the mutual experience being us all?
Is there companionship and purpose here?
Does that make us free to appreciate? Or the other way round, is appreciation what makes us free?
about the elephant in the room
So alright, more said for me than you. Howsoever, it wants saying because after all – it is an Elephant. My blood is not behaving as it should. Real enough. I continue only through the grace of an equally intense medicine. This situation is also – so what? But my cognitive ability does suffer some. That makes a difference here. Words come less easily. Associations, questionable in scope. Less than ideal if writing is my chosen craft. The difference is both visible and invisible. How do I see what I’m not seeing, not remembering!
So my question of late is how do I write anyway? I don’t have an answer. It’s like having suddenly shorter arms. The three observable differences are writing less often, ideas more easily lost, fewer words in smaller aggregations – and yea, tiredness that’s become a distracting background
This is what is given me. I do not have the heart to be unappreciative.
You gotta pay for the ferryboat. Or learn to swim.
My prayer for you. May there be nothing in your way.